Six Questions To Help You Make Sleep A Priority
Sleep and Rest are important for our best healthy life. In fact, sleeping well is an important Pillar Of Wellness that we coach on with our clients in our Holistic Coaching Practice.
Our topic today is In A Busy World Six Questions That Will Help You Make Rest A Priority
We know today that people are tired. There’s no denying it. Especially during these difficult and challenging times, we are presently living through.
People are tired and many of the things they do to save time backfills the time saved with more things to do. Instead of resting, people are cramming more than ever into each day and they’re tired! Do you agree?
At some point, being busy became a badge of honour, or if nothing else, proof that you’re being productive. As the saying goes - Idle hands are the devil’s workshop - Proverbs 16. From childhood, the message is loud and clear. Go find something to do.
Rest, and the benefits of rest, are oftentimes classified as laziness, being selfish, or being unproductive. In a world where there is so much to do, doing nothing feels… wrong. Right?
A few generations ago, the nuclear family allowed one parent to stay home and manage the house and family while the other parent worked outside the home to earn income.
The gap of time between those days and today is growing so wide that most of the newest generation has no idea that was once normal.
By current standards, most families require parents who work outside of the home and there are a wider variety of family structures including single-parent homes, co-parenting homes, multi-generational homes, and other non-traditional styles. These assorted family structures keep family members on the go and make rest a much needed and rare commodity.
The World Glorifies Weariness
“It takes courage to say yes to rest and play in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol” Brene Brown
Making rest a priority is harder when it’s commonplace to “rise and grind” or “wait to sleep when you’re dead.” In our opinion, the world glorifies weariness and sees exhaustion as proof that you are willing to “do whatever it takes” to get things done.
The truth is you can’t ever get it all done. There’s always something more to do and someone else to ask more from you. In the end, the people who matter most… your family… may end up being the things you neglect on your way to success.
The world is moving at a faster pace. Devices make it possible to do more at lightning speed. This has created resentment towards things that take time. Patience is an under-utilized commodity and instant gratification is the standard. Waiting somehow seems like a waste of time and energy rather than being part of the process.
Rest is about recovery. Being drained and exhausted isn’t noble; it’s dangerous. Tired people put themselves and others at risk. Exhaustion isn’t just physical. Your body can be tired, but so can your mind and your spirit. Being weary can lead to emotional issues as well as a deeper crisis that takes much more effort to combat and overcome.
Rest is about recovery and renewal. It’s all about knowing yourself and knowing when you’ve hit your limits. What wears one person out might not bother another. There are no set standards for what drains a person, but all people are at risk for the issues that come up when we are exhausted.
• Physical illness
• Mental health issues
• Interpersonal crisis
• Crisis of faith
• And more
Since the world rewards staying busy, it’s sometimes hard to notice the toll being too tired is taking. It becomes normalized to be running on empty or feeling fatigued on a regular and maybe even daily basis. Without encouragement to rest and refresh, it seems indulgent or selfish. If resting is not part of the culture it feels taboo, resulting in fallout down the line.
“If you don’t take time away from the world around you, you’re going to get pulled down by the world around you.” - Erwin McManus
What Value Do You Put on Rest?
“Being drained isn’t noble, it’s dangerous” - Making Rest a Priority in a Very Busy World
Being overworked and exhausted might be a permanent state of being for a lot of people. Some people are so tired they have forgotten what it feels like to be well-rested and may even confuse a rested state of mind as underachievement. Where do you fall when it comes to opinions about rest?
Let’s take a look.
Answer these questions about rest and see what you value
• What do you consider quality rest?
• Do you make rest a priority in your day?
• When your spouse takes a nap on the weekend, what is your reaction?
• Do you say yes to obligations when you know you’re too tired to add more to your plate? Why?
• Do you have a bedtime routine for yourself and your family?
• Does the idea of rest feel impossible in your current lifestyle?
As you answer these questions, you may start to see whether or not you value rest.
• What reactions are you getting after answering these questions?
• Do you sense that you may need to evaluate your viewpoint on rest and consider adding intentional rest to your schedule?
• What are your thoughts on your value of rest?
• Take the time to journal what you have learned.
• This is where the new habits and practices happen.
Taking the time to find out how I value rest was one of the most important lessons I have learned in getting better sleep and rest. It might do the same for you.
Let us know your thoughts and questions in the comments below.
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